Well, these past 5 years have taken a toll on them and us kids. My Mom now lives in an assisted living home and my Dad bought a cute little house only one block away, so he could walk over to visit everyday. My Mom no longer recognizes me and this happened on Mother's Day when I brought her a bouquet of flowers. How did I know this? First off, she didn't 'light up' when I approached her, she pulled away when I sat next to her. When I asked her to help me put the flowers in a vase, she willing came with and surprised me by taking my hand (not for walking support) and we walked hand-in-hand to the kitchen to find a vase.
My Mom has never held my hand that I can remember. Her hand was warm and small and oh so soft. This is something I will remember always about my Mom now. When I suggested she put the flowers in the vase as I trimmed them and handed them to her, I then realized how much she had 'slipped' - she simply held each flower in her hand and stared into space - not knowing what she was suppose to do with those flowers. I then realized she didn't know what a vase was. So I pointed to the vase filled with water & said she could put those in there. She gently put each flower into the vase and other ladies came by to enjoy the beautiful bouquet she was making! She smiled and was so proud!
As I have watched my Mom lose her memory (and my Dad too - maybe just because of age, but maybe his is also due to dementia) I have wondered what can I do for my memory to hopefully ward off getting dementia. There are so many suggestions out there, from cross-word puzzles and all types of memory challenging games to herbal natural products. The new Swanson Buzz page suggests the brain fitness games & I have enjoyed tackling these games during my breaks here at work!! shhh, don't tell my boss!
Swanson has many all natural health products for Memory & Brain Support. Do you have any suggestions for me? What has worked for you?
Happy Father's Day Dad!